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The
Safest Sex Possible: Mutual Masturbation.
The term 'safe sex' is often modified to 'safer sex',
and the reasons behind this are readily apparent when
you consider the obvious: condoms sometimes break, viruses
can at times penetrate condoms, and even oral sex isn't
completely risk-free. That isn't to say, however, that
you're completely out of options if you are very concerned
about STDs and pregnancy.
There are some variations out there that many couples
find quite erotic and pleasurable indeed. Even these
days, the very idea of self-masturbation with a partner
would cause most people to blush. However, the practice
isn't at all uncommon, and it is the one form of sex
that is absolutely safe. In many cases, couples find
themselves 'driven' to this act when one or more partner
finds himself or herself unable to orgasm through intercourse
or oral sex. But by no means should it be looked at
as a defeat! Men especially find the spectacle of a
woman masturbating extremely erotic, and an added benefit
is that it gives them an idea of what their partner
specifically needs to climax. (Many women, as well,
enjoy watching their partners stimulate themselves -
you read it here first.)
Mutual self-masturbation requires a degree of intimacy
and confidence that many people find liberating and
erotically charged. Add to this the benefit of there
being no risk of pregnancy or STD transmission, and
it's surprising that one doesn't hear about this activity
more often. As long as no bodily fluids are exchanged
in any way, there is absolutely no reason for concern.
Self-masturbation is also the bulwark of the phone-
and computer-sex industry, and while this activity is
held in the popular imagination as being the domain
of single men, by no means is it exclusive to them.
Couples have long used the telephone to 'keep in touch'
when separated by long distances, and now, with the
advent of free online messaging, cyber-sex is becoming
increasingly common between lovers who find themselves
stranded behind desks. (Normal office environments,
unfortunately, frown on such activity; it's up to you
to ensure the right amount of privacy!)
Mutual self-masturbation - whether in person, on the
phone, or over the computer - still remains on the periphery
of common sexual practice. By way of example, an oblivious
Barbara Walters had to get Monica Lewinsky to explain
the nuts-and-bolts of it on television, which may explain
some of its appeal. More remarkable, though, is how
a sexual activity so many people find erotic can be
so safe at the same time.
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