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Ten Essential
Flirting Moves You Must Know By Ron Louis and David
Copeland
There are 10 essential
flirting moves that you must know. These are critical
if you are to get out of the "Friend" zone and into
the "Potential Lover" category with any woman:
- Smiling. You
must smile. You probably think you smile now, but
you don't, really. You should practice your smile
in the mirror--to be big enough to be noticed, your
smile will probably have to be bigger than you are
used to.
- Getting caught
looking. Most people look away when the object of
their desire looks at them. If you want to let that
person know you are interested, when he or she catches
you looking, smile, hold eye contact a moment longer,
then look away.
- Waving. A little
wave to someone who caught you looking, along with
a smile, is a non-intrusive, very flirty way to say
"hello."
- Winking. You
can wink at someone from across the room, or wink
at someone during a conversation. If he or she says
something funny, or someone else does something silly,
you can give a wink as a way of sharing a little moment
for just the two of you, as if the two of you are
in on some private joke no one else is aware of.
- Asking "what's
the story behind that?" You can ask "what's the story
behind that?" about any special or unusual thing your
quarry is wearing or carrying. Examples: "that's really
neat bracelet you are wearing. What's the story behind
that?" or "That's a really great briefcase. What's
the story behind that?" Even if there isn't much of
one, it's given you some conversation.
- Holding eye
contact. While you are conversing with him or her,
you want to be sure to have eye contact at least some
of the time. At least once it's a good idea to hold
the eye contact a little "too long," just a fraction
too long, so there's a brief, more intimate moment
between you.
- Non-intrusive
touching. This can be as simple as placing your hand
lightly on his or her hand for a moment, or touching
her back for a moment as you walk to a table to sit
down. Just do this a couple of times on the first
flirting interaction--if he or she pulls away, don't
do it again.
- Checking her
out. Checking out his or her body must be done properly.
The goal is for your new friend to feel complimented
that you noticed his or her body, not objectified
like some piece of meat. You do this by making eye
contact, then quickly, in less than a second, passing
your eyes down and then up over her body, then back
to looking in the eyes. It should happen quickly,
and you should be unashamed of taking a glance. Just
don't do it too often.
- Using the "Good-bye
compliment." If you are shy, flirting with the "good-bye
compliment" may be just the thing you need. On your
way out, you simply go up to the woman you want to
flirt with, and say something like, "Hi, I have to
go now, but before I did, I really wanted to let you
know that you have a really great sense of style,
and that I noticed it. I wish I had more time to spend
with you, but I have to go." Then leave. This allows
you to build your confidence in approaching women,
without having to take the risk of rejection--after
all, you have to leave, you couldn't stay even if
they wanted you to! (Some men also ask for phone numbers
at this point.)
- Stopping while
it's still fun. Remember, flirting should be fun,
and you should leave the flirting interaction feeling
victorious. Most men leave their flirting interactions
feeling like failures because they don't stop until
it stops being fun. If you stop flirting on a high
point, while it's still fun, your new friend will
feel good when thinking of you, and want to see you
again.
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