The sex drive is one
of the most powerful in human nature. It is normal to want to
have sex. And it is normal to want to have sex without causing
pregnancy and without getting a sexually transmitted
infection.
The condom helps women and men express themselves sexually
and responsibly by greatly lowering the risk of unintended
pregnancy and sexually transmitted infection.
What It Is
A condom is a sheath that fits over the penis. It is made
of latex, plastic, or animal tissue. It is also called a rubber,
safe, or jimmy. It catches semen before, during, and after
a man ejaculates ("comes"). Some condoms have a
nipple-shaped tip to hold the semen others do not.
What It Is For
and How Well It Works
The condom makes sex safer. It protects both partners during
vaginal, anal, and oral intercourse.
The condom prevents pregnancy.
It prevents sperm from entering the vagina. Of 100 women whose
partners use condoms, about 14 will become pregnant during
the first year of typical use. ("Typical use" refers
to failure rates for women and men whose condom use is not
consistent or always correct.) Only two will become pregnant
with perfect use. ("Perfect use" refers to failure
rates for women and men whose condom use is consistent and
always correct.)
More contraceptive protection is possible if contraceptive
foams, creams, jellies, films, or suppositories are also used.
They can immobilize sperm if the condom breaks. Some condoms
are coated with the spermicide nonoxynol-9.
The latex condom protects against many sexually transmitted
infections (STIs), including HIV the human immunodeficiency
virus that can cause AIDS.
The latex condom offers better protection against STIs than
any other birth control method. It blocks exchange of body
fluids that may be infected.
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Condoms Work!
In a 1987-91 study of couples in which one partner
had HIV, all 123 couples who used condoms every time
for four years prevented transmission of HIV. In 122
couples who did not use condoms every time, 12 partners
became infected.
A similar 1993 study showed that using condoms every
time prevented HIV transmission for all but two of 171
women who had male partners with HIV. However eight
out of 10 women whose partners didnt use condoms
every time became infected.
Alberto Saracco, et al, "Man-To-Woman
Transmission of HIV: Longitudinal Study of 343 Steady
Partners of Infected Men," Journal of Acquired
Immune Deficiency Syndromes, Raven Press. Ltd., New
York: 1993, 6, pp. 497-502.
Isabelle De Vincenzi, "Heterosexual Transmission
of HIV in European Cohort of Couples," European
Centre for the Epidemiological Monitoring of AIDS, Paris,
France: 1993. Reported in the Morbidity and Mortality
Weekly Report, The U.S. Centers for Disease Control
and Prevention, 42(30), August 6, 1993.
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Latex condoms offer good protection against:
- vaginitis caused by infections like trichomoniasis
- vaginitis caused by changes in the pH balance of the vagina
that can be triggered by semen
- pelvic inflammatory disease (PID)
- gonorrhea
- chlamydia
- syphilis
- chancroid
- human immunodeficiency virus.
Latex condoms also offer some protection against:
- human papilloma virus (HPV) that can cause genital warts
- herpes simplex virus (HSV) that can cause genital herpes
- hepatitis-B virus.
Plastic and animal tissue condoms are not recommended for
protection against sexually transmitted infections. There
have not been sufficient tests of plastic condoms. Some viruses,
such as hepatitis-B and HIV, may be small enough to pass through
the pores of animal tissue.
The Female Condom
The "female condom" fits inside the vagina like the diaphragm
and also covers the vulva. It has the advantage of not requiring
a man to maintain an erection during use. Although it is not
as effective as the condom, the female condom is a valuable
option for women who want to prevent sexually transmitted
infection or unintended pregnancy.
The Pill, IUD, Norplant®, Depo-Provera®, vasectomy, and
tubal sterilization offer greater protection against pregnancy
than condoms, but no protection against sexually transmitted
infections. Many people use latex condoms along with these
and other methods for the best protection against both pregnancy
and sexually transmitted infections.
How to Use Condoms
Handle condoms gently. Store them in a cool, dry place. Long
exposure to air, heat, and light makes them more breakable.
Do not stash them continually in a back pocket, wallet or
glove compartment.
Use lubricant inside and outside the condom. (Many condoms
are pre-lubricated.) Lubrication helps prevent rips and tears,
and it increases sensitivity. Use only water-based lubricants,
such as K-Y® jelly or AstroGlide®
, with latex condoms. Oil-based lubricants like petroleum
jelly, cold cream, butter, or mineral and vegetable oils damage
latex.
| Safe with
All Condoms |
Unsafe with
Latex Condoms |
Aloe-9®
AquaLube®
AstroGlide®
deLube®
ForPlay®
glycerin
Gynol II®
H-R ® lubricating jelly
K-Y® Jelly
PrePair®
Ramses® Personal Spermicide
silicone lubricant
spermicide
Touch® Personal Lubricant
water and saliva
Wet®
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baby oil
cold creams
Cornhuskers® lubricant
edible oils (olive, peanut, corn, sunflower)
head and body lotions
massage oils
mineral oil
petroleum jelly
shortening
suntan oil and lotions
Bag Balm®
whipped cream
certain vaginal yeast infection medications
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Putting on a
Condom
For pleasure, ease, and effectiveness, both partners should
know how to put on and use a condom. To learn without feeling
pressured or embarrassed, practice on your penis or a penis-shaped
object like a ketchup bottle, banana, cucumber, or squash.
Remember: practice makes perfect.
For contraception, put the condom on before the penis touches
the vulva. Men leak fluids from their penises before and after
ejaculation. Pre-ejaculate ("pre-cum") can carry
enough sperm to cause pregnancy. It can also carry enough
germs to cause STIs.
Use a condom only once. Use a fresh one for each erection
("hard-on"). Have a good supply on hand.
Condoms usually come rolled into a ring shape. They are individually
sealed in aluminum foil or plastic. Be careful don't
tear the condom while unwrapping it. If it is brittle, stiff,
or sticky, throw it away and use another.
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1) Put a drop
or two of lubricant inside the condom.
2) If not circumcised, pull back the foreskin before rolling
on the condom.
3) Place the rolled condom over the tip of the hard penis.
4) Leave a half-inch space at the tip to collect semen.
5) Pinch the air out of the tip with one hand. (Friction
against air bubbles causes most condom breaks.)
6) Unroll the condom over the penis with the other hand.
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7) Roll it all the way
down to the base of the penis.
8) Smooth out any air bubbles.
9) Lubricate the outside of the condom.
Taking Off a Condom
- Pull out before the penis softens.
- Don't spill the semen hold the condom against the
base of the penis while you pull out.
- Throw the condom away.
- Wash the penis with soap and water before embracing again.
If a Condom Breaks...
- ... during intercourse, pull out quickly and replace it.
Men should be able to tell if a condom breaks during intercourse.
To learn what it feels like, men can break condoms on purpose
while masturbating.
- ... and semen leaks out, wash the semen away with soap
and water.
- ... and semen leaks into the vagina during a womans
fertile period, ask a reproductive health clinician for
information about emergency
contraception within 72 hours.
Don't Let Embarrassment
Become a Health Risk
Nearly as many women as men buy and carry condoms. And many
people use them every time they have sexual intercourse.
If you are embarrassed to talk with your partner about using
condoms, practice before you are in a sexual situation. Then,
choose the right time to talk don't wait until the
heat of passion takes over. It may overwhelm your good intentions.
Don't be shy be direct. Be honest about your feelings
and needs. Talking with your partner about using condoms makes
it easier for you both. It can help create a relaxed mood
to make sex more enjoyable.
It may be difficult to talk about using condoms. It will
be easier if you are in a loving relationship that makes you
feel happy and good about yourself and your partner. In any
case, don't let embarrassment become a health risk. The following
script may give you some ideas.
Sample Script for Safer
Sex
| If
Your Partner Says: |
What's
that? |
| You
Can Say: |
A
condom, sweetheart. |
| If
Your Partner Says: |
What
for? |
| You
Can Say: |
To
use when we're making love. |
| If
Your Partner Says: |
I
don't like using them. |
| You
Can Say: |
Why
not? |
| If
Your Partner Says: |
It
doesn't feel as good. |
| You
Can Say: |
I'll
feel more relaxed, and if I'm more relaxed, I can make
it feel better for you. |
| If
Your Partner Says: |
But
we've never used a condom before. |
| You
Can Say: |
I
don't want to take any more risks. |
| If
Your Partner Says: |
Rubbers
are gross. |
| You
Can Say: |
Being
pregnant when I don't want to be is more gross. Getting
AIDS is totally gross. |
| If
Your Partner Says: |
Don't
you trust me? |
| You
Can Say: |
Trust
isn't the point. People carry STIs without knowing it. |
| If
Your Partner Says: |
I'll
pull out in time. |
| You
Can Say: |
Women
can get pregnant from pre-cum. You can get STIs from pre-cum,
too. |
| If
Your Partner Says: |
I
thought you said using condoms made you feel cheap. |
| You
Can Say: |
I
decided to face facts. I like having sex and I want to
stay healthy and happy. |
| If
Your Partner Says: |
Rubbers
aren't romantic. |
| You
Can Say: |
What's
more romantic than making love and protecting each other's
health at the same time. |
| If
Your Partner Says: |
Let's
face it. Making love with a rubber on is like taking a
shower with a raincoat on. |
| You
Can Say: |
You
face it. Doing it without a rubber isn't making love
it's playing Russian roulette. |
| If
Your Partner Says: |
It
just isn't as sensitive. |
| You
Can Say: |
Maybe
that way you'll last even longer and that will make up
for it. |
| If
Your Partner Says: |
I
don't stay hard when I put on a condom. |
| You
Can Say: |
I
can do something about that. |
| If
Your Partner Says: |
Putting
it on interrupts everything. |
| You
Can Say: |
Not
if I help put it on. |
| If
Your Partner Says: |
I'll
try, but it might not work. |
| You
Can Say: |
Practice
makes perfect. |
| If
Your Partner Says: |
But
I love you. |
| You
Can Say: |
Then
you'll help me protect myself. |
| If
Your Partner Says: |
I
guess you don't really love me. |
| You
Can Say: |
I
do, but I'm not risking my future to prove it. |
| If
Your Partner Says: |
We're
not using a rubber, and that's it. |
| You
Can Say: |
O.K.
You know how to play checkers? |
| If
You Are a Virgin and Have Decided to Have Sex and
Want to Use a Condom and Your Partner Says: |
Just
this once without it. Just the first time. |
| You
Can Say: |
It
only takes once to get pregnant. It can only take once
to get a sexually transmitted infection. It only takes
once to get AIDS. |
If your partner absolutely refuses to wear a latex condom,
you can use a female condom. Some men have said that the sensation
is not so reduced with a female condom.
Don't be afraid of being rejected. Besides, the partner
who doesn't care about protecting your health and well-being
is not worth your sexual involvement.
Benefits of Condom
Use
- Condoms let men help prevent pregnancy and sexually transmitted
infections.
- Condoms are inexpensive and easy to get.
- Condoms are lightweight and disposable.
- Condoms do not require a prescription.
- Condoms may help a man stay erect longer.
Sex Play, Pleasure,
and the Condom
Many women and men say they have better sex when they use
condoms. They are able to focus on their sexual pleasure without
distractions about unintended pregnancy and sexually transmitted
infection. Some couples put the condom on as part of their
foreplay. Many men stay hard longer when they use condoms.
Disadvantages
of the Condom
Some men and women feel that the condom dulls sensation. Others
become frustrated and lose some of their sexual excitement
when they stop to put on a condom. Some men are self-conscious
about using condoms. They feel pressured about having to maintain
an erection to keep the condom on. Others feel pressured to
ejaculate. Many overcome these pressures and learn to enjoy
using condoms by using them during sex play before intercourse.
Side Effects of Condoms
Condoms have no side effects except for people who are allergic
to latex. Five to 7 percent of women and men have such allergies.
They may use animal-tissue or plastic male or female condoms
instead. Some condoms are lubricated with spermicide, and
some people are sensitive to different brands. Switching brands
usually clears up the problem.
Choosing and Buying
a Condom
All condoms are tested for defects. But, like rubber bands,
condoms deteriorate with age. If properly stored, they should
stay good until the expiration date printed on the wrapper
of each condom.
Condoms may be transparent or opaque, tinted, nipple-ended,
rippled, studded, contoured, dry, powdered, or lubricated
with spermicide or without. Read labels on "novelty"
condoms to be sure they protect against pregnancy and sexually
transmitted infections.
Usually, size is not marked on the package. But condoms
come in different lengths, widths, and thickness. Try different
brands and styles to find out which fits best.
Condoms are usually available in packages of three or a
dozen. Plain, nonlubricated condoms can cost as little as
20 to 30 cents each. Other styles and brands can cost from
60 cents to $2.50 each. For lubricated condoms, the average
price per dozen is about $6. Animal tissue and plastic condoms
cost about $25 per dozen.
You can get condoms in drugstores and drug departments of
other stores. They also are available in Planned Parenthood
health centers and other family planning clinics where they
may be less expensive or free.
Female condoms cost $2.50 each. They are available at women's
health centers and drugstores.
Don't be embarrassed by the thought of going into a store
and asking for condoms. Be proud. Buying condoms says that
you are responsible and that you accept your sexuality as
a normal part of living.
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Text adapted
from The Condom
© 1976 Planned Parenthood® Federation of
America
Revised version © 1999 Planned Parenthood®
Federation of America
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